Wow Tabby sounds like a very sad, pathetic and lonely person. The abuse you went through is painful to read about. I went through similar experience and can totally relate when you mention that the other survivors get a very strong connection and bond for life afterwards. I am still to this day surprised by how much this woman our old boss hurt us all and caused trauma. Also interesting to see similarities in the approach : my old boss also completely blurred the personal/professional life boundaries on purpose, we were all very inspired by her and thought she was the smartest woman we knew. Then slowly after she controls you she can make use of you however she pleases and speak badly about everyone else in their back to keep you thinking you are so special and different. How awful. I wonder if there is a name for this personality trait ?